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Mary Shands

Mary Shands

LPC

Therapist · Texas · 12+ years of experience

Compassionate counselor focusing on practical change

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  • Practical skill building
  • Warm listening style
  • Works with trauma

About Mary

Mary Shands is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with 12 years of clinical experience. She holds licenses in Missouri and Texas and has worked in schools, substance treatment settings, with veterans, and in sexual offender treatment programs. Mary listens closely and brings an energetic, caring presence to sessions.

She often helps people manage stress, anxiety, depression, and addiction. Mary also supports those dealing with trauma, grief, relationship and parenting concerns, and anger. Her background includes work with adoption and separation issues, codependency, and first responder stress.

Mary uses approachable, practical methods in therapy. She draws on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Client-Centered techniques, Attachment-Based ideas, Emotionally-Focused methods, and Existential perspectives to shape sessions. In plain terms, that means she helps people notice unhelpful thinking, name emotional patterns, and try small changes between meetings.

Sessions tend to focus on real-life problems and skills you can use right away. Mary also offers guidance around career strain, self-esteem, eating and sleeping difficulties, and coping with big life changes. Her experience in schools and community settings informs a flexible, down-to-earth style.

People who look for clear tools and steady support may find her approach helpful. She accepts English-speaking clients and works with issues across the lifespan. To begin, follow the site steps to match and schedule a session with her.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyAddictionsRelationship issuesFamily conflictsDepression

Also works with

LGBTTrauma and abuseGriefIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAvoidant personalityBody imageCancerCodependencyControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFirst responder issuesForgivenessHIV / AIDSHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Self-loveSexual assault and abuseSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaTraumatic brain injuryWomen's issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

12+ years

Credentials

Missouri, Texas

Languages

English

How her approaches translate to online work

Mary often draws on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Client-Centered methods. CBT helps people check thoughts and try small behavior changes to reduce distress. Client-Centered work focuses on listening, reflecting what matters, and helping people find their own direction.

She also uses Attachment-Based ideas to look at emotional patterns that come from close relationships. That approach can help people notice how past hurts affect present reactions and build more effective ways to relate to others.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Mary will work together with each person to match goals, preferences, and needs. She adjusts tools and pacing based on what works in early meetings and what the person wants to focus on.

Practical benefits of online therapy include easier fitting of sessions into a busy life, fewer travel logistics, and more options for scheduling around work or caregiving. The biography does not list specific session formats, so confirm current options before booking. Many people find online sessions let them use therapy without rearranging their whole day, which can make it easier to keep steady progress.

At a glance

Listed location
Texas
Experience
12+ years
Credentials
LPC
Languages
English
License (Missouri)
LPC · No. 2014024447
License (Texas)
LPC · No. 77506
NPI
1649793787

As listed by the therapist. You can check a license with the state board and an NPI with the national registry.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does Mary address?

She works with stress, anxiety, depression, addictions, trauma and abuse, grief, anger, relationship and parenting concerns, and many related issues.

What is her approach in sessions?

Mary combines client-centered listening with techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Emotionally-Focused and attachment-informed approaches to help people spot patterns and try new responses.

How much experience does she have?

She has 12 years of professional experience working in schools, treatment centers, and with veterans and community programs.

Where is she licensed and located?

Mary is a Licensed Professional Counselor with licenses in Missouri and Texas and practices from Texas.

What languages are sessions offered in?

Sessions are offered in English and she is available to work with international clients.

What session formats are offered?

Session formats are not listed in the biography; please confirm current session options before booking.

How does payment and cost work?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

How do I begin working with her?

Use the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.

Before you start

  • Online talk therapy is not a court-ordered or mandated anger-management course, and it does not provide attendance certificates.
  • Check that the location and license details above fit where you live.
  • If anyone is at risk of being harmed, contact emergency services or a domestic-abuse helpline first. See the support lines for the US, UK and Australia.
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