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Deborah Thoennes

Deborah Thoennes

LPC

Therapist · Wisconsin · 15+ years of experience

Practical, respectful therapy for emotional regulation

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  • Focus on coping skills
  • Collaborative treatment planning
  • Calm and direct support

About Deborah

Deborah Thoennes is a licensed professional counselor in Wisconsin with 15 years of clinical experience. She helps people who are dealing with stress, anxiety, trauma, low self-esteem, depression, anger, and life transitions. Her approach aims to make the first steps feel manageable when change seems hard.

Deborah focuses on listening first and adapting the plan to each person's needs. She uses clear, practical conversation to notice patterns, try new strategies, and track small changes over time. Sessions emphasize realistic goals and steps that fit into everyday life.

Her work draws on several therapy styles, including client-centered methods that follow the client's lead, cognitive behavioral ideas that address unhelpful thinking and behavior, and mindfulness practices to reduce reactivity. She also uses emotionally focused ideas to help people understand and shift relationship patterns when those come up.

Deborah treats each person with respect and sensitivity. She frames therapy as a collaborative effort and encourages honest feedback about what is and isn't helping. The tone in sessions is supportive but practical, aimed at building coping skills and clearer decision-making.

People who want straightforward guidance with emotional regulation, coping skills for stress and anger, or help moving through grief and life changes may find this approach useful. To begin, she asks clients to identify a few concrete goals so work can move forward in small, steady steps.

Areas of expertise

Also works with

LGBTRelationship issuesFamily conflictsGriefEating disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesAvoidant personalityBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSexual assault and abuseSmoking / vaping cessationSocial anxiety and phobiaSomatizationWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family SystemsSystemic Therapy

Experience

15+ years

Credentials

Wisconsin

Languages

English

How therapeutic approaches shape online work

Client-centered therapy focuses on following the client's concerns and rhythm. In practice this means the therapist listens deeply, reflects what she hears, and adapts sessions to what matters most to the person. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, breaks problems into thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches small, practical skills to change unhelpful patterns. This approach is often used for anxiety, depression, and anger to build specific coping tools. Emotionally-Focused Therapy helps people notice and name emotions in the moment and try new ways of connecting in relationships or difficult situations.

Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work. The therapist collaborates with each person to identify goals, try methods that feel useful, and adjust the plan when something isn't working. Clients have a voice in which strategies to keep and which to change.

Session formats are not listed here, so confirm current options before booking. Online therapy can make it easier to fit appointments into a busy day, allow faster follow-up between sessions, and reduce travel time. It can also let people choose shorter check-ins when schedules are tight or use video when face-to-face interaction helps learning new skills. Licensed professionals aim to make sessions practical and usable in everyday life.

At a glance

Listed location
Wisconsin
Experience
15+ years
Credentials
LPC
Languages
English
License (Wisconsin)
LPC · No. 5260-125
NPI
1124451174

As listed by the therapist. You can check a license with the state board and an NPI with the national registry.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does Deborah help with?

She helps people facing stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, anger, depression, grief, relationship and family challenges, parenting strain, career concerns, ADHD, and related issues.

What is her therapeutic style like?

Her style is practical and person-centered. Deborah listens first, then offers concrete strategies such as cognitive-behavioral techniques and mindfulness exercises tailored to each person.

How much experience does she have?

Deborah has 15 years of professional work experience in counseling and related clinical roles.

What credentials and region apply to this therapist?

She holds the LPC credential, licensed in Wisconsin, and provides services linked to that professional standing.

Are sessions offered in other languages or to international clients?

Sessions are offered in English. International clients are not currently accepted.

What session formats are available?

Current session formats are not specified here. Please confirm the available formats with the provider before booking.

How does pricing work?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability, and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

How do I begin working with Deborah?

Select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule based on therapist availability.

Before you start

  • Online talk therapy is not a court-ordered or mandated anger-management course, and it does not provide attendance certificates.
  • Check that the location and license details above fit where you live.
  • If anyone is at risk of being harmed, contact emergency services or a domestic-abuse helpline first. See the support lines for the US, UK and Australia.
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