Bilkan Kilicer

Bilkan Kilicer is a BACP counsellor who combines exploration of the present with attention to past experiences. She presents a calm, patient manner to help people who feel nervous about starting therapy. Bilkan aims to make the first steps manageable and clear for anyone feeling overwhelmed.

She works in an integrative psychodynamic way, which means she looks at current problems alongside the patterns formed by earlier life events. Bilkan often supports people who have experienced trauma and helps them pace conversations so they do not feel overwhelming. Her approach emphasises listening, reflection and gradual change rather than quick fixes.

Sessions focus on building understanding and noticing the habits that keep difficulties in place. Bilkan uses practical strategies from approaches such as cognitive behavioural techniques and skills from dialectical behaviour therapy when they fit the person’s needs. She also draws on acceptance and commitment ideas and attachment-based perspectives to help people face difficult emotions and improve relationships.

People come to her for a wide range of concerns including anger, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, relationship difficulties, grief and parenting stresses. She also supports clients dealing with chronic illness, codependency, eating concerns and career or life transitions.

Bilkan works with each person to set clear, realistic goals. She encourages small steps that add up over time and offers steady support as people test new ways of coping and relating.

How Bilkan uses therapy approaches online

Bilkan uses a mix of approaches to help people manage strong emotions and change unhelpful patterns. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on noticing thoughts and feelings without fighting them, then choosing actions that match what matters to you; it can help with anxiety, depression and anger. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how earlier relationships shape how you connect now and can help when relationship patterns and trust are causing distress. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) examines the links between thoughts, feelings and behaviours and offers practical steps to reduce worry, low mood or unhelpful reactions.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. Bilkan will discuss options with each person and decide together what to try first. She treats this as a collaboration, adjusting methods if something does not feel helpful or fit with your goals.

If you are considering online sessions, please confirm the current session options when you book. Online therapy can make it easier to fit meetings around work, family life or health needs, and it can shorten travel time. Some formats need less bandwidth and suit short check-ins, while others allow more time for deeper conversations. Registered and accredited professionals often find ways to adapt exercises and skills work to an online setting so the sessions remain practical and focused on real-life changes.